It’s time to stop settling for good enough.
You have to start settling for MORE to have the body and life you want.
When you settle for less than you desire in any area of your life, you may be managing risk and uncertainty, but you’re forsaking living full out with all the colors and flavors that make life magical.
Do you find yourself rationalizing your behavior and convincing yourself that good enough is okay? Your mind will try to protect you from the discomfort and fear of change and will persuade you that good enough and sameness is safer.
This safety illusion is true for your weight as well. You may want to lose weight, but your mind is trying to convince you that it’s safer to stay where you are. Maybe your added weight protects you from the opposite sex or feeling visible in your relationships or career.
Your body and weight are often mirroring what’s going on in the rest of your life. So if you’ve settled for a life of good enough in your relationships, your finances, and your job, chances are you’re settling when it comes to your weight and body.
One of the reasons it’s so easy to settle for less than we deserve when it comes to our weight is because of the nature of dieting itself. Dieting forces us to focus on restriction and deprivation.
Diet consciousness automatically forces you to concentrate on less:
- Less food
- Less calories
- Less carbs
- Less weight
- Less pleasure
- Less choices
This doesn’t sound appealing, right? No wonder you can’t sustain long term dieting results.
Your life should be about MORE; not less.
- More pleasure
- More nourishment
- More delicious healthy foods
- More nutrients
- More energy and vitality
- More self-care
- More choices
Are you settling for less than ideal ways to care for your body?
- Junk food
- Low-quality foods: heavily processed, sugar-laden, GMOs, chemicals
- Same old boring meals every day
- Eating foods you don’t even like because you think you’re supposed to
When you stop settling for good enough, taking care of your body and your health becomes a labor of love.
What about the things you settle for in the rest of your life?
We all know about the big things we settle for like a crappy job or an unfulfilling relationship. But what about the smaller things? One day I took a good look around my home and noticed all the things I was “putting up with” for one reason or another.
- Ice maker was broken for over 2 years
- 2 light bulbs had not been replaced in the guest room for months
- French doors in the family room squeaked
- Front door had to be jiggled to lock properly
- Ceiling fan kept shutting off for “no reason”
Maybe you don’t have any home repairs you’ve let go. What about other areas of your life?
- You go to a hairdresser who doesn’t style your hair the way you like.
- When you stay at a nice hotel, you get jealous of the soft, luxurious sheets because yours at home were on sale and feel scratchy.
- You’ve been wearing the same pair of sandals every summer because – well, they’re good enough.
- You don’t speak up at work when you have ideas for improvement.
- You sit through hours of mind numbing TV shows before you go to bed.
These seem like small things, but over time these insidious ways of settling overtake the way we see ourselves in the world. They say “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve the best.”
Why are you willing to live with things that can be easily fixed? Don’t you deserve to live in a home where things work properly? Shouldn’t you be free to speak your mind in your relationships and career? All of these small things are taking up energy in your head. None of these things are necessarily significant until you add them all up.
Maybe you can’t afford to fix everything in your home or life right now. There’s a difference between waiting until you have the funds to fix a leaky faucet, and just putting up with it because you’ve blocked it out, got resigned to it, or are just too lazy to call a plumber.
When you start taking care of the little things around you, you may be surprised how you’re no longer willing to settle for the bigger things. And that includes your health and self-care.
Every decision you make (or don’t make) impacts the quality of your life. This means the TV shows you watch, the people you hang out with, the food you eat, the books you read, the things you complain about, everything.
Settling is a form of apathy. It’s checking out and distracting yourself by:
- Over medicating
- Over-numbing out with:
- Video games
A certain amount of self-numbing is critical for our survival. If we didn’t soothe ourselves from the constant barrage of war, politics, global warming, terrorism, murder, rape, cheating, crime, poverty, sickness, and natural disasters, we wouldn’t be able to get out of bed in the morning.
The trick is to learn how to differentiate between healthy and unhealthy soothing. Healthy soothing is anything that is nourishing – meditation, healthy eating, joyful movement, music, laughter, nature, or anything that makes life worth living.
Another form of settling is rationalizing.
Deep, deep down, you know you need to walk away from your job. But it’s scary; what will you do instead, how will you earn money to pay your bills? What if you can’t find another job? Then because you’re afraid, you rationalize and tell yourself that your job isn’t really that bad.
“I’m lucky to have a job at all in this economy.”
“Other people would kill for a job like this.”
“The hours are okay, and it’s close to home.”
“I’d miss my coworkers if I left.”
Stop settling! These rationalizing lies are keeping you from having a fuller, richer, happier life.
What can you do today to stop settling? Take an inventory of the areas in your life where you’re settling for less than you deserve. Then start taking action. Start with the easy things first. SETTLE FOR MORE!
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