We all want a healthy body image, right? But women and body image have a long dysfunctional history that needs to be overhauled first.
We live in the most judgmental time there’s ever been. Reality TV is on every channel almost any time of the day and night. The purpose of these shows is to judge. We judge singers, dancers, survivors, models, cooks, dieters, designers, you name it.
Social media invites others to comment and often judge critically. Trolls can anonymously spew hatred and harsh, unconstructive, abusive criticism without consequences.
We even have a U.S. president who often judges others publicly for superficial things like appearance.
Judgment is pervasive and it’s easy to get desensitized to judging others when it’s everywhere we look. And it’s easy to turn this judgment internally. Self-judgment is insidious and creeps into every area of your life if you’re not careful.
So how do we eliminate the judgment that’s preventing us from having a healthy body image? It starts with awareness and ends with the decision to stop judging.
How do you start developing a positive body image?
Feeling judged by your size? You’re not alone. Even super models can be insecure about their appearance. But here’s the thing. YOU are in control here.
You attract the energy that you put out into the world. So, if you are judging yourself or others, you’re creating a judgment energy. You will attract people and situations that bring about more judgment. When you’re feeling good about yourself, those judgers won’t be able to get near your judgeless zone.
There will always be people who judge you. That’s their issue; not yours. This is true whether you’re a size 2 or a size 22. So if you want freedom, find a way to let go of their judgment and get in the habit of not being a judge yourself.
You can start building a positive self image and ending your judgment karma by identifying 3 areas in your life where you’re judging yourself or others and practice letting go of these judgments.
Here’s an example from my life. Like everyone, I found myself judging more often than I’d like to admit. When I did this exercise, 3 things came up pretty quickly:
- Judging how others shop at the grocery store. OMG, “I can’t believe she feeds her kids that crappy food”.
- Making groundless judgments on others based on their political beliefs.
- Negative self-talk about my appearance. I’m getting better at this, but it’s a hard habit to break and takes practice.
And PLEASE don’t beat yourself up or judge yourself if you don’t succeed right away. This takes consistent practice. Like I said, judgment is pervasive in our culture and just being aware of it is moving in the right direction toward a healthy body image and a healthy life.