Being normal isn’t all it’s cracked up to be
We’re trained to follow the crowd and strive for normalcy when we’re kids. And it seems to come naturally to us. We just want to fit in, get picked for the baseball team, have friends to sit with at lunch, and not be different enough so that we get picked on.
And our parents, teachers, religious leaders, and friends encourage us to blend in and be like everyone else. But are they doing us a disservice?
Who are the truly successful people in this world?
They’re not the people who just go through the motions, copy the crowd, and stay inside the “normal” box.
Being a normal adult often looks like:
- Working at a lackluster job for 40-50 years so you can retire with little or no savings
- Obsessing about diets, weight, body size, calories, and how others perceive you
- Depriving yourself year after year hoping you’ll find the magic weight loss bullet
- Feeling unworthy of love because you don’t have a ‘normal’ perfect body
- Being afraid of going after your dreams in case you fail
When you follow the crowd instead of your own unique internal guidance, you’re life becomes small and ordinary. And if that’s what floats your boat, good for you.
But if you’re feeling underwhelmed or you feel that life is passing you by, it might be time to kick normal to the curb.
Are you living a big or small life?
Living a big life doesn’t mean you have to cure cancer or be a rock star. It means you’re not living like 95% of people who go to jobs that suck the life out of them, sleepwalk through their days, and then come home exhausted, make dinner, take care of the house and family, and then distract themselves with the fact that their days are meaningless by eating or watching mindless television.
Living a big life doesn’t have to be a big hairy scary deal. It means that you are listening and following your own voice. What would truly make you happy? Is it really a number on the scale? Will being a certain size truly fulfill you?
Following the crowd and striving for normal is a recipe for dissatisfaction for most of us. How can you be happy when you’re letting others dictate how you live, what to eat, and how much you should weigh?
Of course there are times when it’s good to be normal, like when you get your Pap smear results or when you’re taking your blood pressure.
But if you want an extraordinary life, being normal is highly overrated.
It’s time to let go of “normal” and shoot for peace, happiness and fulfillment.
Don’t follow the crowd, 95% of them don’t know where they’re going.
It’s journal time again. Write down all the people you admire (living, dead, famous, or people you know). Did they follow the crowd? What makes them stand out? What makes them unique? What can you learn from their success? What areas of your life are you playing small because you don’t want to stand out and be your unique and beautiful self?